Matters of the heart are all about relationships and affections. You know, the stuff that everybody cares so much about, but no one likes to talk about it openly. I don’t, anyway. Do you? Don’t you keep some secrets?
What kinds of posts might address this topic? Posts about
There’s a lot of stuff to consider! I wondered, when I laid this blog’s hierarchy out, and included body, heart, mind, spirit as separate categories, whether it wouldn’t be appropriate to unite heart and spirit. But the two are separate.
The heart of each person functions fully, regardless of the ability of the spirit to be full and healthy. To put this another way, you don’t have to be a good person to really love someone, you just have to be human.
As Mick Jagger put it in Jigsaw Puzzle “The gangster, he looks frightening, with his Luger in his hand, but when he comes home to his children, he’s a family man.”
So people can be fully present and fully feeling, without being fully spiritual. Thus, the dividing line between the categories of heart and spirit.
My keyword research says that matters such as loneliness, how to write a good dating profile are huge draws. There is also a place for writing about our families, and how to get along. These are the matters that fall under the category “heart.”
Mondo dismo: Noun. Definition: A man who is not to be trusted. To women in particular, a self-centered exploiter. Mondo Dismo is an expression that I first heard of in Romancing the Stone, the 1983 adventure/romance starring Katherine Turner and Michael Douglas The premise is that a homebody romance writer, Joan Wilder, finds herself suddenly […]
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Researching the loneliness epidemic, I find that loneliness is more state of mind than experience of solitude. It results from perceptions. The modern loneliness epidemic burst on the scene last year with the surgeon general’s announcement. I have friends at work, the yoga studio, my support group, hiking group. Yet I too feel lonely, part
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The vicissitudes of web mastering: People have been searching here for the phrase “a man will never leave a woman who.” This seems to be coming from publishing the blog post “Who are the man women will never leave.” But the whole thing troubles me. The truth is, at first brush I could only speculate
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A few months back I reflected on this question: is being smart an advantage for dating? Rob Henderson has said that it is: I’m basically smart, aren’t you? You’re reading for fun, that makes me think that you’re above average in intelligence. Less intelligent people are watching videos. But is it possible: Being smart an
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Proem Sing Muse, of Susan, a woman of many wiles, tamer of horses and men and teacher of children and mistress of fashion and money and world traveler … and how one Thursday night she realized she was actually not as great as she always thought and just now as a result was about to
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I have to admit I am incompletely satisfied with my last post on the topic on what women want in a man. Long, discursive, and ultimately unsatisfying to me, I wondered if I had skirted the issue. Maybe what women want is not the issue. Maybe one needs to look at what women expect or
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This week I continued teaching summer school, which went well. I did not get off match.com, and will cover that in a separate post later this weekend. And I realize that, while it’s true things are so much better than they were, I’m still getting over all the stuff that happened 18 months since the
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As I stare at the dating app questionnaire, and face up to questions like “how tall are you, how important is height to you” I wonder to myself if I should look for the book in the library: dating apps for dummies. But as I promised last week, I selected a dating app — Elite
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Last week I said I would write this week about online dating or, as it’s called in the circles I run in, “going on the app.” Soon after I posted last week’s update, I realized that I had, as usual, bitten off more than I could reasonably chew. At least in one week. It has
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Today it’s been a year since the divorce. I don’t feel any different than last week, but if you compare where I am now with where I was then, you’ll see the difference. I look over it all and try to sum up my year, as Robinson Cruieson said, “Like debtor and creditor.” Friends and
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