Divorce is a topic I perhaps know too much about, but I hoped as I wrote about it that my experience could be of some use you, Reader. Because when I searched for blog posts about divorce, I found relatively little.
Most of the posts I found through Google were about the legal ramifications of getting divorced, and seemed to lean toward drawing people into litigation. This wasn’t helpful in my case. For Leo and me, there wasn’t so much to divide up, and much of it naturally split into two halves — our two pensions, for example, were almost the same size. And the kids were grown.
What I wanted to know was, could other people going through divorce sleep at night? Did they worry they would always be alone? What happened to their families?
They say when you want to read a book, and can’t find it, you have to write that book yourself. I suppose my blog posts about divorce are my book on that topic.
It seemed to me at the time that it was critical to document the divorce as it was happening. I have to admit to you that reading the posts now they often seem horribly self-absorbed. I actually took some of them off-line. But some of them are very good. I particularly like 3:00 in the Morning, Does Life Have Meaning?
It doesn’t actually talk directly about the divorce. But the subtext is there. It’s about success and failure and what matters and what doesn’t. Divorce recovery. It’s a thing.
I have to admit I am incompletely satisfied with my last post on the topic on what women want in a man. Long, discursive, and ultimately unsatisfying to me, I wondered if I had skirted the issue. Maybe what women want is not the issue. Maybe one needs to look at what women expect or […]
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This week I continued teaching summer school, which went well. I did not get off match.com, and will cover that in a separate post later this weekend. And I realize that, while it’s true things are so much better than they were, I’m still getting over all the stuff that happened 18 months since the
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Today it’s been a year since the divorce. I don’t feel any different than last week, but if you compare where I am now with where I was then, you’ll see the difference. I look over it all and try to sum up my year, as Robinson Cruieson said, “Like debtor and creditor.” Friends and
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