You want to know what color does the mother of the groom wear? Like my answer to what color shoes to wear with a black dress, these days, any color will do. But if you want a more “correct” answer, I can give you that as well. Generally the mother of the groom’s dress should be a darker shade of the color the wedding party is wearing. Or you may wear a color of the overall theme of the wedding.
The only color they say you should never wear is white or off white. This is because doing so would detract from the attention paid to the bride.
A Once in a Lifetime Event
Perhaps I should mention that since weddings are once in a lifetime events and are remembered and often there’s a lot of people there many of whom are blood relatives and thus our folks you are going to see again it’s worth it to make things go well, it’s worth to consider other’s feelings.
Things to Consider While Preparing for this Wedding
Weddings, those times of so much joy, can be tricky, and from here I can tell you, it’s hard to give your son away!!! Even if your daughter in law is a wonderful person, even if you stand to win by getting grandchildren, it’s still hard. There are some things you can control, and some things you can’t. The “let them” philosophy will almost certainly be involved in the healthy response to a child’s wedding.
If you really want to wear a red dress to your son’s wedding, you may. But you may stick out in a way that you might not want to. You may, as they say, attract attention. If you’ve been married three or four times yourself, the effect will be worse. Think, and then consider who you want to be as you stand up before the group of wedding guests. You should feel proud, secure, well-dressed, someone to be admired. Choose a dress that will bring those feelings.
Choose the color based on the notes above and your feelings, and then, choose the design. A dress, as you may know, is a type of armor in some situations. Covering and exposing parts of the body, with billows of fabric or none, draws attention or deflects it draws admiration or derision…there’s a reason why women spend a lot of money on formal clothes. In style, the mother of the groom dress will resemble the bride’s and bridesmaids dresses, just with a little more coverage, a little more fullness in the skirt. Perhaps.
What about the Design of the Mother of the Groom’s Dress?
You can go formal if it’s a formal wedding. When my daughter got married, my dress actually had a short train. All the usual rules about dress selection apply.
- Length appropriate: Long is good for both appearance and decorum, generally, but shorter may not be wrong. On the other hand, if the wedding and party are outside in a garden, a long dress may be problematic. If unsure, ask your soon-to-be daughter-in-law or her mother for advice. They know better than you who is going to be there and what they’ll be wearing.
- Decolletage: Live your best life. However, you will be visiting with family and friends alike and this isn’t, despite all the drinking, a cocktail hour. If the wedding is in the church there may be expectations about clothing. There will certainly be pictures, and they may remain on the wall for the rest of your life, so .. be thoughtful.
- Backless or low backs … think it through. In addition to the considerations under ‘decolletage’ you may want to consider, if you like to dance, the stability of the entire outfit.
- Long sleeves can get hot, short sleeves might be better. Try to avoid those trailing Elvira sleeves that get in the food. You don’t want to look like Elvira, you’re both too old and too young for that.
- Fabric: it can get hot in some venues. Cotton would be better than satin, although we always do sacrifice comfort for appearance!
- A short jacket might be a good thing to have. The fabric should be breathable.
- Shoes: You may have to walk a long way, possibly a mile or two by the time you’ve been to the dinner and the reception. Plan accordingly. It would not be a bad idea to have two pairs of shoes, one to switch into after the photo shoot, if you’re very attached to a stylish pair that are not comfortable.
- Check the entire outfit in a full length mirror. There are plenty of small details that change the look, that you just can’t see until you put the dress on.
Where will I Get This Dress?
I would recommend having the dress custom made. There are websites that do this, just type “mother of the groom dress custom made” into the browser. I had a dress made when my daughter got married. If you go this route you will need to order in advance. Check the websites for more info. I got my mother of the groom dress from Macy’s. It’s a nice dress, gray, but I rather wish I had had the foresight to have one made.
Perhaps I was feeling a little blue and put it off too long. But it is a good dress too.
Everything at the Wedding Will Go Fine …
These are the details you need to get started on your hunt for the dress for your son’s wedding. The wedding and the dress will be beautiful, I am sure. Generally, at a wedding, everyone looks their best somehow. Don’t put off shopping for the dress, though. Of all the things you will buy for this wedding, your dress is far from least important! Your wedding gift to the bridal pair also requires some thought. But you’ve worked for years raising this child, and your dignity is worth maintaining. Choose a dress that’s right for you and be proud on your son’s special day. And. Although you may not want to say this to the bride’s family, don’t for a second forget: without you, none of this would be happening.
